Sunday, July 16, 2006

Where's my purpose , dude ?

Time : 8:06 am
Place : Seaqueen hotel , calicut
A more precise place : On my bed .
State of mind : Just got up . Any use of words with violent , sexual or abusive connotations is due to a lack of breakfast and a shoulder pain resulting from the awkward position I slept in .

First of all , I am not sad . I have a decent career taking off , a family I love , friends I love, and a security guard I am beginning to love ( Things a lonely existence does to me ) . So it would take a fully loaded nuclear attack and a couple of Himesh Reshammiya's CDs to make me feel sad . On a related note , I just saw the video of "teri yaad na aye" from Himesh on MTV . The guy is crying lakes in the video . I had this urge to actually reach into the screen , wipe his face with a tissue and say "Na munna na , sab theek ho jayega ."

But even though I am not sad , I have a little thought nibbling on me this morning . The more I live , the more I realise two things . First , I still don't have a 'purpose' in my life . And second , now that I have lived some more , I have lesser time to find that purpose .It is like 5 years back I was "Chill yar . I am only 20 . Only Buddha found a purpose in life at that age." But Now I am like "Umm . I am almost 25 . And I think I will find a bigger meaning in life right after a little nap. "

Sure , I have phases of 'being driven' in my life . Like I wake up and say 'Right . Today I will call the Airtel Customer care people and tell them they should be looting banks in ski masks and not calling themselves a telecom service provider for all the scary things they are doing to my connection'.So little purposes about getting my cell connection up , analysing Gold Flake sales in north kerala , ironing my shirt for the next day and such micro sized things dot my day .But there is nothing which connects all these dots and makes me say " Oh right . Now all the things that seemed stupid and mundane to me make sense".I don't have a purpose which unites all the things I do and drives me and makes me say "Oh yeah , so this is what it was all about". In fact , that's the problem bugging me right now . I don't know what's it all about .Maybe there isn't supposed to be a purpose , a bigger meaning in life . Just live , have fun , eat good chinese food , watch movies , and of course , there is the security guard .

Starting a Sunday with such things which would beat a well with their depth is not a great idea . I can almost imagine Lord Buddha sitting up there on a cloud and shaking his head and telling me "Take it easy kid . It's Sunday after all . You know what that means for a working chap ? So gulp some sandwiches and a hot coffee and flip on FTV and everything will make sense ."

And I want to buy a camera . To live through this place without clicking the beach and all the churches and the typical umbrella-newspaper-lungi keralite would be a sin as big as painting a moustache on Thackerey's wife's face . And I don't have a good knowledge of music . I confuse a flute with a baton and you need a gun to make me sit through a classical music recital . But I like this song called 'Mehfuz' by Euphoria . I have lumps in my throat as big as an ostrich's eggs whenever I listen to its lines . And a couple of days back , I got a call .
Me : Hello
The other guy : ~ Something in malayalam~
Me : Sorry , wrong number .
( If I guy calls me and talks in malayalam , he doesn't know me . Or he really trusts my language picking speed )
The other guy : ~ Some more malayalam ~
Me : Ok . That was interesting . Bye .
( 5 minutes later . The same guy calls up )
T.O.G ( Do I tell you what that stands for ? Get yourself a brain surgeon . It's "The Other Guy" ): ~ Some more malayalam ~
Me : See , yeh wrong number hain . This is a wrong number . Galat . Galat . Wrong . ok ?
T.O.G : ~ Malayalam ~ ( Agitated voice . . I really hope he is not a relative of veerappan )
Me : Ok . The guy you want to talk is wearing a pink scarf and sitting in a big garden and eating cherries . Please don't call . WRONG NUMBER . GALAT ! GALAT !
But the mallu caller hasn't understood this since then . He has called me some seven times over the last two days . So now our conversation goes like this
T.O.G : ~ Malayalam ~
Me : Krissh dekh lee bhai ?
T.O.G : ~Malayalam ~
Me : Zidane to pagal hain .
T.O.G : ~ Malayalam ~
Me : Ha Ha ! Well said .
I don't know why this guy still calls me . He will have to wait till I finish my "Learn malayalam in 30 days " book . It's been almost two months I've been reading it .
All the kids please get up and clap because my breakfast is finally here . And nothing gets in between a hungry munnu and a hot breakfast . So now yours truly will step back into his big bad mallu world . Let's pacify the rats in my tummy now . As for the purpose of life ...umm....pehle kha leta hoon !

93 comments:

Varad said...

wow this is really cool..to be the first to comment on this post..u rock man..am a regular reader of ur posts (though not that regular in dropping comments :D)

varad said...

forgot to actually drop the comments..loved the conversation with the mallu guy..why don't u tell that guy to call u after 30 days when u wud have learnt mallu (hopefully u wud have at least learnt to tell that by now considering that u've spent 2 months already with the book)?

Anonymous said...

this was nice again, not sure how do you frame your thoughts so well.. ...

On finding purpose in life, I guess that's quite tough and my guesstimate is very few people find it in their life ..

lotus dew said...

:)

Fursat said...

purpose of ur life to make me laugh, make me realise i dont work something productive execpt calling u and do stupidiest things..

chal aish kar..and ya get a cam..its nice idea..and take care

Jitesh said...

well it'll sure be pacifying to ever1 who reads this coz if an IIMite can live on without a purpose in life..they can take a breather or 2 before that next round of soul searching n introspection!..;)....nwz ive read a few of ur posts n despite my urge to stand out from the rest of the crowd ..wudnt refrain from complimenting u ...ure a good writer dude! ..live on..with or without a purpose!

Sirius Black said...

Haha i think the mallu guy likes your voice or smthing :D
From where i can see it , the calling is only gonna get more and more :D
Lonleyness khatam bhai tere to ab ;)

Sudipta Chatterjee said...

For all I know, I think that Mallu guy is your watchman's secret lover and has seen you ogling at that man!! :))

BTW, purpose in life chahiye? Jaa... Mallu seekh ke kamse kam usko gaali to mar!!

Awesome post, sirji!! Please aap ka breakfast roz thoda late ho jaaye

divya said...

u want a purpose??i`ll give u a purpose,
earn enough to buy me that red sports car(now dont cry foul....we switched from a red scooty to a red sports car! and no point arguing with me)if thats not big enough..we could make it a yatch or a plane.
i think there is some meaning to everything that happens to us.,although we dont see it right away. its like a puzzle and it wouldnt be any fun to know the answers at the start.waise kerala seems to have done u a lot of good,u`ve met that watchman!!

Nirwa said...

LOL! Loved your answers to the other guy! HAHAHA!

Nirwa

justme said...

ahahha..!

Ashish Gupta said...

good to see you finally settling down in that life...
(though I sincerely hope not with the watchman :P)

so howz the joblife - ironed formals and days starting at 6-7 am? :|

Manas Garg said...

Hmmm. So, you are also asking yourself the zillion dollar question. Did you get the answer? ;)

Or you have forgotten the question you framed so completely that you are wondering what the question was?

I bet, it is the latter and not the former.

Anyway, if you are still interested in pursuing the enquiry, here are some interesting links:

1. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Purpose_of_life is a good place to know what are the common beliefs in this regard and what points of view are held by different systems of philosophy. Don't forget to check out the "External Links" section.

2. http://manasgarg.blogspot.com/2006/04/purpose-of-life.html is where I had written my views on the same. It may not help you realize the purpose of your life but it may help you realize why you are asking this question in the first place.

3. http://manasgarg.livejournal.com/3109.html is another post you might find interesting.

Fathima said...

T.O.G. and u - wow! Sometimes I have this urge of talking utter non-sense i.e., Answering what I know or want to talk rather than the answer pertaining to the question. U r lucky that u got the chance.
BTW, Veerappan is from Tamilnadu and not from Kerala. So less chances that TOG is a relative of Veerappan

Anonymous said...

Hey get a girl friend . You ll get all the answers you are looking for :)

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Smoochy said...

Been there pal!

Read this if u got time.

And it took me two months of thinking (part of it with no job) to get here

Inder said...

ha.. ha.. when you think that the caller is no more amusing, you can always use "enakku malayalam ariyilla".
the sole purpose of life is to LIVE. isn't it? what else does one need?? :D

AJITH said...

Searching the purpose and still at Calicut ? .. I suggest u roam around the city and enjoy the beauty..For any suggestions, contact me :)..Its my hometown

Sayesha said...

Your purpose is to write mast posts for us, buddy! :D

Maverick said...

hahaha great post.....
ur purpose of life is to wear lungi and learn malayalam.... :P

yossarian said...

Your purpose in life is to help me decide what field to specialise in, how do get a good summer and above all how to pass Finacc in the mid-terms :)

Bharat Jhurani said...

lovely man.. and i understand the situation arising due 2 not knowing the local lang... BOL, keep goin and do manage 2 complete the learn mal buk, so tht u can start teachin me... :)

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its me said...

i am in a ditto situation...
"there is nothing which connects all these dots"
hey may be all the dots are not yet discovered..
is the final destination really so important rather than the path taken to discover the dots???

Suds said...

Purpose? hmmmmm are yaar teri tabiyat toh teekh hai na.. Tereko is umar mein purpose kyon chahiye.. Aur 10-20 saal mein yeh saab soachna... Abhi ke liye Eat, Drink and enjoy in MALS land..:):)

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Sumit said...

khaa beta khaaa. .. .
purpose mile to mujhe bhi bata ..

Raam Pyari said...

hehehhe
shilly boyyy!!!
had my share of laffs reading the conversatiion between u and T.O.G and now I shall go bak to Data Interpratation so that someday I too can analyse ciggy sales in north karela!! ahem
:)

amyth said...

cig sales in kerala, the state that banned its use in public 1st? interesting job ;) man, learn malayalam. it's a very ffunny laanguvage ;)

Gaurav Varma said...

hey dude
wats with the wistful pensive tone of late?

ketki said...

really funny!
:)
but u write so less these dayz!

Anonymous said...

sex is the biggest motivator. it comes in various disguised forms like ego or greed but still if u wanna feel satisfied, get a love life

Terminally Insane said...

Yeah I'm with you dude.. 23 years old and still no "purpose in life". Good to know there are more like me !

Shekhar said...

Arre Munnu Bhaiya, tussi tense na ho...tohar 'nirvana' jaroor hoga...tab tak tanik dheeraj (err..hope that's not the name of the security guard)

sunflower said...

awesome awesome awesome. share all ur thought. the difference is the ease with which u put it on paper. u rock mummu. i really really love ur writings. hope u write a bookj someday soon:)

sunflower said...

awesome awesome awesome. share all ur thoughts. the difference is the ease with which u put it on paper. u rock munnu. i really really love ur writings. hope u write a bookj someday soon:)

Anonymous said...

Purpose of life is to experience things and maximisation of pleasure and minimisation of pain as simple as that.

shweta said...

mr chimpu lala...
camera le aa aur us chowkidarr ko chod de yaar ....
bechare ki watt mat laga yaar ..!!!
shwets

candid diary said...

Outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend. Inside of a dog it's too dark to read.
- Groucho Marx.
You may replace ‘book’ with ‘blog’, now.
So get a Chihuahua or Wolfhound or Doberman or whatever. You can train the dog to bark at T. O. G. over phone.

candid diary said...

You have been talking to a Mallu!
Visit my blog to see my interaction with a Chinese blogger.

Anonymous said...

that coversation with mallu guy was gr8,
dont know whether u will learn malayalam or not , that mallu guy would certainly learn some would get some worldly gyaan. :-)

The Guy Next Door said...

How abt a post abt food in Mallu Country? Whats a typical Mallu breakfast , lunch , dinner ,etc ?

Vinodh said...

Hey munna...so finally found purpose in life is it..no reply to comments...wat was it??..

Frankly this is a question which nags many youngsters especially after they get a good job and settle down... I am trying out something - www.rebelz.in -hope it succeeds so that i can pull in more folks who r roaming around with this question in mind.

Vipul said...

Hi there!
This is the first time i'm leaving a comment. U are awesome.

Try reading "When all u have ever wanted is not enough" by Harold kushner.

You may find some answers.

I personally agree with "Food is the answer to all doubts."
:)

someone lost said...

hi....i dont know how i landed up here but im really glad i did!!

u have written everything i would have written had i not been so lazy .... :) .....BUT ...not as beautifully as u have man!

god bless ! keep it up ....... n let us resume the favorite passtime ...looking for the meaning in life.....pata nahi kab pata chalega mujhe bhi ..

divya said...

where is ur new post,dude?

just_a_girl said...

Chill, you are only 25! :D

Shardul said...

Hi , Great post dude . as for as purpose of life is concerned ..hmm.. those who have pupose of life never seem to have time for this question for others like us reading " man's Search 4 meaning by Vicor Frankl..entire range of richard Bach & Robin Sharmas & Sidharda & infinite tuesdays with morrie ..dosent help. Period .

pandora said...

hahahah

clap clap! ek crazy insaan ko baatein karne ke liye another crazy company mil gayi. dhanya hai TU abhi.

PS: notice kiya? maine tu keh diya. :P

Anonymous said...

"sea queen" is a nice place,it used to be one of our fav places to visit when we were at IIM Kozhikode...visit our campus sometime ,code word to enter is a smile and saying "student" is a wierd accent

sunshine said...

well written... looks like i'm going to be a regular here..:)

Shankar Iyer said...

Nice post..I a going to be a regular here now..interesting...u studying at IIMC?..

sushant said...

i was already an enthusiastic follower of ur blog but now on comin to know that u too are from the air force school made me happy in a mysterious way...mysterious bcoz i dunno what diff does it make even if i'd have been from a diff school , you'd have been as entertaining anyway.

Hiren said...

Very humorously expressed but finding the purpose of one's life can be extrememly traumatic for some- Make your passion your profession

munmun said...

yaar you are AWESOME!!! too damn creative... too good with the words... pls keep posting.. that should be your purpose in life!!

Anonymous said...

hey that was such a nice post as usual...The only thing is that I really wish if you could get a chance to experience the serene beauty of that place...:)..try...I am sure that you will really like it.

nobody said...

lol @ the way u ansewered that mallu guy! hilarious! :))

as far as purpose in life goes, do ur duties dutifully, respect your elders, give ur best in everything - take it one day at a time; or, take it one meal at a time :)

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@ shankar iyer
Hitler's soul does not study in IIMC, any more. He works at ITC. You may read his earlier posts … and you will like them.
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Perspective Inc. said...

LOL.. good stuff!

Rose said...

Is it really imp to have one???

Niedhie said...

Hi, at your blog after a long time...

Hilarious post!!! :)

Anonymous said...

wishing u happiness munnu..avai wantd2 say that..tc..

Varshita said...

I had the opportunity to visit teh southern part of our dear country this march. And trust me I was boqled by teh way they love their mother tongue. Though thats a different issue that I still confuse tamil to malyalam... cmon.. I am a hardcore punju and I aint all that interested in picking this language. Anyways...
We were travelling by road from banglore to pondy mahabalipuram and back. And on teh way whenever we stopped to ask for directions which were oh-so-awesome... they would stick to "lefta poo, righta poo, dead-enda"
And I would laugh away to death much to the embarassment of my sister n jiju who would be asking for directions.
A little silly joke that made there... how would southies announce for a race..??
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chipmunk said...

Theres a hint of depression in the words you choose (in some of your posts. Wassap wassap wassap...take it easy dude. :)

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Anonymous said...

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Plain and simple : You find your purpose when you follow your heart. Trust me.

Suji said...

First time on ur blog. Liked ur posts. Keep us updated. Hope you find ur purpose in life soon. And don't forget to enjoy ur life in the meantime.

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Uptown Girl said...

Read a poem called 'Of living alone and not brooding too much about it!' And then came read your blog! I ask myself the question you did a million times! And since I am still a long way from the answer... :)

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The Guy Next Door said...

Hey - Where hv you disappeared, dude? Life's not the same without your Posts.

Anonymous said...

Why are you so condescending about Mallus? Getting a negative feeling in all ur "Mallu" related blogs... :( - Priya

yossarian said...

where the hell did ur post abt selling cigs go ??? :o

ketki said...

still in the "where's my purpose" quagmire????????????
comm'on now come outv of it!!!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Hey
read all your posts over the last couple of days...believe me it was the first blog i read and im really enjoyin it !
tho i do wonder wat you must have said at your insti/job interview..
bet you weren't such a wiseguy then...or were you ??
how about a post on dat ?!

jus a regular guy from delhi/pune..
Mohit Ahuja (mohit_ahuja@yahoo.com)

raven said...

waiting for a new post.
and might be down in calicut around 19th (if i dont quit by then!)

Helga said...

whens d next post coming up?

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found it intersting that your 'smoking' post has been politely removed...even at the time of reading it had wondered how would your bosses at ITC react to it...

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Bullshee said...

Awesomely funny post....Being a mallu myself,interested in what the guy was saying!!?Hop you finished learning the Mallu in 30days book.....

Prabh said...

ohh so u probably know some malayalam... right? aur haan bae..pehla khana kayo.. fir purpose ke bare socho huh..hehehe...i like that one...

Prabh said...

oh yeah.... khana finish karo aur bhad mein purpose ke bare socho...heheh.. i liked that entry...heheh

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